So I have my own Facebook group. And in that group i like to post my thoughts, my opinions and what not, because it is my group and I am building a community over there in my virtual neck of the woods.
Anyway, just like I do, I post things I notice on social media (which is where I hang out a lot since I am an online biz owner) and I posted an opinion I have about selecting a word that is your word for the year, you know something to keep you on track and motivated and what not. In Facebook it is all the rage (gag).
Anywho, I posted why I don’t do it (I won’t get into that now) and I had one person in particular who was basically trying to out spiritual me (at least that was my impression) and was basically telling me why I should in fact pick that one damn word.
Now first off, why does anyone care whether or not I (or you) do this practice? I mean seriously in the grand scheme of life it is pretty low on the importance scale. #realitycheck
But it got me thinking about all the various posts I see on Facebook where people just love to give their two cents without anyone asking for it. I mean my post was an opinion post, not a please oh wise one tell me what i should do post.
Can you tell I was triggered here?
Do you do that; give advice whether someone wants it or not? I do, with my kids and sometimes with my husband (ok a lot with him because he needs me-haha).
What is it with social media that people are so freaking ballsy? I see this a lot. You know stuff you would never say face to face especially to someone you don’t even know. I get it if you actually ask for the advice, but to just throw it around like you have all the answers, no.
That is what we call a "know it all" and rude out here in the real world. If this is you, do everyone a huge favor and knock it off. No one likes to be told they are wrong (even if you just "know" that they are wrong). You just focus on you, creating your life, your dreams. I am 47 years old, I got this. I can take care of myself. I am doing just fine. And I know how to ask for help when I need it. Promise.
Next time you are just itching to pipe up and give someone your all mighty truth and testament, I invite you to stop and remember that YOUR truth may not be MY truth. And who are YOU to tell me MY truth (especially when I am not asking you). What is truth anyway? It is subjective.
And then ask yourself if you are still so tempted to enlighten someone, ask yourself if you would like a stranger (even if they are well meaning) to tell you “the truth”. I bet you might think twice. Just sayin.......
Caroline Nixon is
an intuitive healer and teacher who wrote two books about what she knows.