Lately I have been thinking about how I have been labeling myself and putting myself in a box and the systems that do just that. For instance Astrology. Most people nowadays know their astrological sign, at least their sun sign. Some people, including myself have had their whole chart done based on their birthday and time of birth. I will admit that the characteristics of these astrological signs can be pretty darn interesting.
However, and this is what I have pondering as of late, I am a soul in this body having a human experience, at this time. Is my soul this astrological sign or is it just the me that is living on this planet now?
Interesting right? I think it is.
Let’s take Numerology as well. Numerology can be super fascinating just like Astrology, but it is also based on your birth date and your full name. Again Numerology can be really cool, but it is limited to just this life and not the thousands of others I have most likely had. Unless of course I always come in with the same Numerology and Astrology chart, which I highly doubt.
Moving on to the Human Design and Gene Keys. Cool ways to know yourself, but also based on this lifetime.
I am in no way saying that these systems are not valuable, so don’t get your panties in a twist. I am just saying they are limited to only this time and space. Maybe that is okay. Maybe that is all you want to know about yourself.
I happen to know that I am much bigger than this particular lifetime. My soul knows no bounds. My soul has lived in many, many bodies; different colors, different countries, different social classes, heck different planets even.
I don’t want to limit myself. I tend to find that all of the above mentioned systems are limiting. I have never quite fit in any of those molds actually. Maybe that is just me, but I have never once read any of my charts (and yes I have had all of the above charts done for myself) and thought that they were without a doubt spot on. Not once. And before you say it, I am not interested in any other charts or tests or anything to know myself more. I am good.
As of late I am tuning into my Higher Self, you know, my soul, for more and more guidance and inner knowing. She is the one who knows the most about, well, me. All the thousands of versions I have been, all the experiences I have had, adventures good and bad, personality quirks, everything.
If you feel called to know yourself more in this body, at this time that is cool. Ultimately it is your choice. Go for it. Do what lights you up. But remember that this body that your soul is hanging out in has been around the block a time or two. They know YOU best. Why not talk to them and find out who you truly ARE at soul level.
Just my two cents.
How many times have you thought, “If I just join a gym I will lose weight?” How many times have you joined a gym only to stop going after a few months, or maybe you do go and do the same sad workout, day after day, not seeing any significant results in the mirror?
It isn’t that exercise is bad. Movement that feels good, is so amazing for your body. An active lifestyle is even better than just a trip to the gym every other day. Building movement into your day helps your body burn those calories efficiently all day long.
But if you think that exercise alone will help you lose weight permanently, you will be disappointed. Exercise is but one ingredient in the weight loss formula. Exercise helps you feel stronger, more confident, burns calories, reduces stress hormones and helps your mind relax.
But weight issues are more complex than just throwing on walking shoes and going for a run. Weight issues have physical, mental, emotional and spiritual causes, and usually it is a combination of all of them. And just exercising is like putting a band-aid on a gunshot wound. It might help stop the bleeding, but you still have a deeper wound to heal.
And as we are each unique and divine, so is the root cause of our weight issues. You can have a physical body imbalance that triggers weight gain; even some medicines can cause your body to retain extra weight, but I find that there is always an emotional upset or trauma (real or perceived) that is the actual root cause from where the physical manifestations begin to blossom.
I often find that if you dig and dig some more, you will find that the root cause of weight issues (and quite frankly all health issues) is lack of love. Love of body. Love of self. Sounds kinda cheesy, but it is true.
Lack of love can look like a million different things; not feeling worthy, depression, low self esteem, sabotaging yourself, addictions (all of them), people pleasing, door mat, etc.
So you can go the gym like a boss, and cut all those carbs and you will see your body shrink most likely, as long as you are doing all those things. What happens when you stop cutting carbs though? You know what happens; you begin to put the weight right back on. This is because you have not gotten to the root of your particular weight issue, and the weight just keeps coming back not unlike a weed.
When we don’t truly and completely love our bodies, we can find ourselves constantly berating ourselves, quietly in the comfort of our own minds. If you walk by a mirror and think, “OMG, I am so fat...” how do you think your body will respond to that? Is this love and care? Yet we do this to our bodies all...the...time. It is not helpful.
And if you think about it like this, everything is energy. Everything has a vibration. This isn’t New Age stuff either; this is scientific fact. Everything has a frequency. Thoughts. Emotions. Objects. And if you are in a constant state of thinking bad thoughts about your stomach, your thighs, your butt, arms, chin, scars, stretch marks, cellulite, etc you are eating spoonful after spoonful of lower vibrational energy.
Love, however, is high vibe frequency; the highest. What if you thought loving, kind thoughts about your body, yourself, your life? How do you think that would feel? Which would you rather eat spoonfuls of? Love or hate? I know which one I prefer.
Let’s go back to the self loathing for a minute though. If you are thinking negatively about your body all throughout your day, how do you think it will affect you? Your mood? Do you think it would affect your food choices? The way you dress or carry yourself? Perhaps you would sit around more because, why bother? Or maybe it would get you fired up to make a resolution full of willpower and action (for a few weeks).
Do you see where weight issues are not as simple as go to the gym and eat more vegetables? I hope I have enlightened you on this. You gotta heal the root cause, and that root cause is ultimately healing your lack of love of your body.
When you can come into alignment with your body and body love, magic happens. The choices you begin to make are more effortless, flowing, feel really freaking good. You walk by a mirror and smile more. You begin to appreciate all that your body has done and does for you every moment of every day. You feel more confident in your skin.
Yes there is deep healing that needs to happen, but you see this as self love vs. sheer will of force.
I have created a group program that can help you lose weight, with way more ease and love! It is called in fact, Body Love, the energetic approach to losing weight.
Body Love will help you embody the love that you are. Body Love will help you acknowledge, heal and release emotional traumas from this lifetime and before (yes, we can carry these traumas over from other times and places). Limiting beliefs will be pulled and released (1000’s of them). Your physical body will be healed, the systems, organs, cells and your DNA will be cleansed and supercharged, so that your physical body can begin running more efficiently.
Body Love is a 3 month deep dive investment in your body transformation. The weekly healing and support you will receive will not only keep you motivated, but also super focused on your particular goal of weight loss. This is not a get skinny quick program. This is a commitment you make to yourself to heal from the inside out. Your outer self will begin to reflect that deep inner love you are cultivating within.
Are you ready to love your body deeper than you ever thought possible as you begin to lose the weight you so desperately want to lose?
Do you use affirmations?
How are they workin for you?
Has anything shifted, changed, gotten better?
If so, sweet. Keep on doing them.
But if you are like me, and affirmations have been kinda “meh” for you, then listen up.
If you are lost, let me explain what an affirmation is. An affirmation is a positive statement that is your goal, ie “I am rich”, “I am healthy”, “I am living the life of my dreams”.
You get the idea.
The thing about affirmations is that you are trying to affirm and change your unconscious program by repeating over and over what you want.
Now there is absolutely nothing wrong with this, so don’t get your knickers in twist if you love affirmations.
Like I said before, if they are working for you, keep doing them.
The problem with affirmations in my view is that your mind does not believe it (yet). It may take a long time of repeating the affirmations, writing them down, posting them everywhere for your mind to finally begin to shift.
I would like to offer another suggestion for those of us that don’t really resonate with affirmations all that much.
Are you ready?
May I introduce to you “Afformations”. I discovered afformations around 8 months ago, and I love them so much.
What the heck is an Afformation you ask?
An Afformation is an empowering question that you ask yourself.
You see, your mind is always looking for answers. Your mind likes to solve problems.
You are asking yourself questions all the time, but the questions you are asking are probably disempowering.
Questions like, “Why am I overweight? Why am I broke? Why can’t I attract the perfect relationship?”
These are disempowering and keep your mind finding reasons to support these questions. Which means you just keep on affirming lack, not having and unhappiness.
Now I did not create Afformations. Noah St. John did. Gotta give him props for these.
So how do you begin asking empowering questions so that you can begin bringing in more wealth, health and love?
Change your internal questions so your mind can begin automatically helping you.
Wouldn't that be nice to have your mind actually helping you??
Let’s take one of the above limiting, disempowering questions and turn it into an Afformation.
Let’s take, “Why am I overweight?” All you need to do is begin asking yourself, “Why is it so easy for me to lose weight (get fit, get stronger, etc)?”
Doesn’t that feel better. Your mind instead of instantly poo-poo-ing the questions, begins to search for answers and then like magic, your awareness opens up for new opportunities for change.
You still have to take new actions, but your mind is instantly on board and ready to work with you instead of looking for reasons why an affirmation won’t work.
Don’t take my word for it though. Try this for yourself.
Check out the book Afformations by Noah St. John to learn more (and no I am not getting paid to say that). This book gives lots of information and examples to pick from, or you can make up your own.
We are so much more than our physical bodies. We are souls in bodies having human experiences, on this planet, at this time.
We all have had experiences, billions of them in this life alone. If you think about all the lifetimes with all the billions of experiences, that is a whole heap of stuff.
Now think about all of your past experiences that may have hurt you, where you have gone through tough situations. Probably at least a few come to mind, right?
And think about for just a moment how maybe, just maybe you have experiences in other lifetimes that were less than pleasant. Perhaps a lot of suffering, illnesses, untimely deaths, murdered even, persecuted, starved, etc.
Okay, let’s delete all that now. Whew!
My point here is not to dredge up your past or make you feel like crap. My point is to illustrate how your experiences no matter if in this life or before, have shaped who you are right now. I know that for me, I would not be the strong, independent chick I am had I not gone through my wacky, highly dysfunctional childhood.
I will add here that on some level I actually chose it all anyways, so I knew what I was getting into when I came here this go around, even if I didn’t remember consciously. But that is another story altogether.
Back on topic now. So we can safely assume from the above information that we might have lots and lots of unresolved traumas, experiences, past life stuff (technical term) that are waiting to be resolved, healed and released.
Do you think that all of these unresolved traumas can possible effect our bodies?
Do you think that all of the experiences we have consciously and unconsciously swept under the rug because we just couldn’t deal with them, could possibly effect how we show up in the world, our relationships, self esteem, our health, our weight?
I do, 100%. I believe that all of those past unresolved emotions, beliefs, experiences are very much alive and well and living in our cells, our chakras, our energy bodies, our DNA and they are keeping us stuck, blocked, sick and unhappy.
But don’t lose hope, because I also happen to know that you are a powerful creator just as I am a powerful creator. And as powerful creators, we can heal ourselves on every level of our being. We have just forgotten our power. We have forgotten that we can absolutely heal ourselves. We have forgotten that we hold the key to our health and happiness within ourselves.
For me, energy healing is the way to begin clearing up and cleaning out all of the inner resistance, stuck emotions, tired and outdated belief patterns, old programing, limiting thoughts, so that we can move into a stronger connection with our bodies, minds and spirits.
When we can clear up all of that sluggish energy, we are able to tap into better health and wellness, more clarity, greater appreciation for our bodies, more confidence and a deeper connection with God (Source, Creator, Universe, etc).
It takes courage to begin this journey and re-claiming of your inner power and strength, but it is so worth it. I can help you.
You can wish yourself thinner all day long,
If you are all wishes and no actions, you will be wishing and hoping and thinking and praying, planning and dreaming all day long.....
If this is you, and you have been wanting to lose weight, secretly obsessing over your body, then let me ask you this: Is that working for you? Are you losing weight through the wishes and prayers?
I CAN help you stop wishing and get to creating the reality of better health and a slimmer waistline TODAY!!
If you are committed to your weight loss goal, meaning you show up and do the action steps, you can absolutely shed those pounds for good AND have a deeper love of your magnificent body.
My program, Body Love, is an energetic approach to losing weight! It brings together the physical, the mental, the emotional and the spiritual aspects of what needs to be addressed in order to lose weight while loving YOU. Notice I didn't say loving yourself after you lose the weight. NO!! Nope. Wrong.
Body Love is about loving YOU while losing weight!
Sound like something you need? Reach out. Let's talk.
Here is the link with all the details (and there are a lot).
I was doing so well writing a blog. I was all consistent and everything. I am not sure where it fell to shit, but there ya go. It has been a while, but now I am back baby! It is 2019! Crazy to think the holidays are behind us, and we are well into January.
I had company for almost three weeks during Christmas, and it felt like I just dropped off the face of the world. I didn't do a whole lot in my business including scrolling Facebook. I think it has lost the appeal it once had. So I find myself with a lot of time to fill doing something else.
Funny how such little things like Facebook can suck the time away. How much time are you on Facebook or any other social media site for that matter? A lot I bet. We say there isn't enough time in the day to do this or that (exercise, prepare healthy meals, read, unwind), but then we scroll and scroll and scroll some more on social media. And you know what? Sometimes scrolling makes you feel bad or you begin comparing yourself to others. I mean look at all the posts. They show people's selfies depicting these lives that are in all honesty, probably not half as awesome as they are portrayed. It is madness really.
I have set the intention to not be on Facebook as much. I post my wares, then I hop right on off. I might do a live, and interact a bit, but that is it. And guess what? I feel pretty okay. I don't feel like I am missing anything at all. I actually have been practicing my Spanish on a cool app. I have been writing more, dreaming bigger for myself and other stuff.
I am not telling you to get off social media. Not at all. If you love it, and it fills you up ; have at it. But if you find that you are using the 'ol "I don't have enough time in my day" excuse, maybe take a look at where you are allowing your time and energy to be sucked.
Have a good one! Talk soon.
I want to bring back into your awareness on you and your body’s wisdom for a moment. There are so many distractions “out there”, and so many places we can focus on outside of us.
There are constantly energy shifts in the Universe, planetary shifts, moon phases, astrology stuff; all the things we can look to when stuff isn’t necessarily going great in our lives. These are certainly tools we can use. But when we focus our attention solely looking outside of us, we are giving our power away to these other things. Sure it may not be a huge deal in the moment when we read about solar flares and mercury retrograde. It can actually give us comfort. We can think, “Oh that is why this is happening and that is happening TO me.”
This is giving your power away, essentially blaming something outside of your control. The energy of blame however righteous and true it feels, is still blame.
What if you just go within yourself, your body and ask your body what is going on with you; what you need to look at or heal and release? It kinda takes out the middle woman and brings you back to you, which is where your power lies. Just think about that for a bit.
The common denominator in all the stuff you have gone through, been through, lived through, experienced is YOU. You played a part whether it was conscious or unconscious. That is just truth, not good or bad. It just is.
When we can shift from the shadow, the victim or martyr energy (oh heck all the shadow parts of ourselves) to wake up to the truth that we are powerful creators who can make new, aligned choices for ourself, we can truly change, heal anything in our life and body!!
I have been otherwise occupied for the last week and a half.
You see I live in Wilmington, NC, and we have just had hurricane Florence knocking on our door.
We are safe. We are sound. We now have power in our home, air conditioning, internet has been restored.
All the creature comforts we have.
So many still do not.
Grocery stores are not able to receive food deliveries, so the stores are bare boned.
We have plenty of food in my home.
We are beyond grateful.
Everything feels like such a luxury after a week without power, air conditioning, phone service.
I have been up and down emotionally, all over the damn place.
But at the core, I am just grateful!
It is amazing how reliant we are on things, services.
It is also amazing how a disaster of any kind brings out the best in people (and the worst). I have talked with neighbors for the first time, shared a pot of camp coffee.
I am just grateful today!
If you are able to donate to the Red Cross, please do. People have lost their homes!!
I think a lot about healing and health and spirituality and all things woo. I really do. I don't even pretend to have all the answers to any of it either. I learn and grow as I walk on this Earth, and I try to share my nuggets of wisdom along the way.
This morning, just now in fact, I was thinking about healing and how we can look at our beliefs, emotions, thoughts, and all of that stuff and we can dig into our past and do past life healings all day long and still have more to look at and uncover.
I actually find this to be kind of exhausting, all that digging in. Now I realize that most folks have no idea what I am talking about here. Most people are so focused their mind chatter and worry of the future, that they aren't even taking time to breathe much less recognize the vastness that is the body-mind-spirit connection.
But I am not talking to them. I am talking to you, and you know all about how your thoughts create your experience. If you are reading this, if you have found me, you know. On some level you feel the pull to learn more.
I have come to the conclusion that we are always creating and manifesting based on what we think, feel and do. There is no time in our life that we just stop growing and learning and healing as well. That thought alone can feel a little overwhelming at times.
But I also think that there is a fine line between all the digging and searching for things to clear and heal and release AND just being in the moment and being happy, enjoying your life.
Some folks just love to do healing on themselves all day long. I find this to be one way of escaping the joy of living and just being here. Again this is a fine line.
I do think any time we are triggered by something outside of ourselves, there is always something there for us to look at. It doesn't have to take hours though. I am at the point where if I get triggered (and I do), I can just literally stop what I am doing and ask myself right then and there, "What is up with this?" and I can usually release it pretty darn quick.
I don't spend all day doing healing, digging, releasing. I think it can be as easy as saying "Delete" when stuff comes up and then we can get on with our day, in this world that we have chosen to experience.
I just think that if you are looking for something to heal, you will find it. It can occupy you all day long if you choose. At what point do you decide that right now you are good enough and go have an ice cream cone and celebrate how awesome you are?
Like I said at the beginning, I do not know all the answers, and I am okay with that. I will probably have a different opinion on the matter tomorrow. These are just today's thoughts.
Caroline Nixon is
a psychic healer and teacher who wrote two books about what she knows.