It has been a minute (several actually) since I last wrote a blog piece. I have no real reason why. I suppose like you I got busy doing other things like watching the world we live in take a nose dive or perhaps I was just watching Netflix. Bridgerton was quite a nice distraction. But alas I am writing now, and the two people who read this blog will be super excited I am sure.
So what shall I ramble about today? How about the fact that we are a good two weeks into January 2021, and I have not done a great deal. I am just not "feeling it" for all of you spiritual folks. My energy has been okay, but when I think about my business and how I want to show up and serve (you know what all the business coaches tell you to do), I feel kinda "meh".
I have always known I was here to help people, women in particular, to love themselves. And because I struggled with my body, weight and self esteem so much growing up, I know that I am here to help women with that too. And with the weight loss industry being a gazillion dollar industry, you'd think people would be lining up for me to help. It has not always been the case for me, and I think I know why.
One of the reasons is because I don't focus on diet and exercise to release weight. And THAT is a huge program that people are running in their subconscious mind; the idea that it is all about the Twinkies and running on a treadmill for an hour. I definitely lose people when I talk about their belief systems.
I find that most people just cannot seem to let that program go. I get it. We have been taught from a very early age that you have to "eat right and exercise" if you want to lose weight. And here's the thing, you absolutely can lose weight if you restrict your diet and move your body more.
But, how many people do you know actually keep the weight off for a long period of time? Maybe a few. Most do not. Most gain it right back plus some. And they are so hyper focused on what they eat that they are a smidge neurotic. They count calories and worry about eating this or that. You want to live like that? I surely do not.
Another reason that people aren't lining up around the corner for assistance is that they don't want to take the time and energy to look at their emotions, their baggage, their "stuff". It is uncomfortable. They have spent their whole life (and maybe a few past lives) stuffing their emotions down deep, and using food as their emotional support animal. I do not believe you have to go through any traumatic event again in order to heal it, but I do feel that you have to acknowledge them.
Essentially we are these big 'ol bags of emotions in a body (or meat suit if you will), and when we suppress our feelings, they just hang out and fester in our energy bodies and eventually they migrate into the cells, tissues, organs in the physical body. That is usually when we begin to pay attention to our bodies by the way; when we start to feel like shit. We don't always realize that these emotions, traumas etc (real or perceived btw) have been around for a long time, years maybe and we have been numbing ourselves out so we don't have to "deal" with them.
And lastly I think that people want guarantees in life. People want to know that if they invest in a program or session that I can "fix" them, and they will somehow magically release weight. I wish I had that super power. As with all things, you gotta show up for yourself and do the work for yourself. Sadly, most do not want to do the work. They would rather just move onto the next thing with the hope that this time it will work if they only give up xyz. But we know how that story ends.
Just because you go on a diet and lose weight, does not mean you actually love yourself now. I teach and it is my belief that you have to love yourself right now as you hold the new vision of yourself, look at your programs and beliefs and do the work. That is why I call my programs, "Love Yourself Slimmer".
Anyway, these are just some thoughts I have having in this now moment. Maybe no one will read this, or maybe I will get a few likes. It is all good either way. Until we meet again.....here's to your health.
Caroline Nixon is
a psychic healer and teacher who wrote two books about what she knows.